My assumption is that he doesn’t want to be involved in altering/removal an OEM cat. He did offer to build me something custom that is very high flowing. It might have also been just something he didn’t want to deal with/not worth his time… 
I did find an interesting FAQ about guidelines for exhaust work - and the guy is right. It is illegal to do what I asked him to do. Reading through the FAQ (it has Ohio and US EPA rules) and most exhaust modifications seem to be illegal - even for off-road use it says. Looks like Ohio has some pretty restrictive rules:
State law prohibits any person from removing or rendering inoperative any emission control device
or element of design installed on or in any motor vehicle or motor vehicle engine. The exhaust system
configuration, including the location of the converters, and the exhaust pipe diameter and length, are
items specified by the manufacturer during certification because engines and some of the associated emission
systems are generally affected by the exhaust back-pressure, which subsequently affects vehicle emissions.
http://epa.ohio.gov/portals/27/echeck/docs/exhaust_repair_guidelines.pdf
The way I read it, you basically have to replace 1 for 1 on any exhaust system and are not allowed to change any aspect of the original exhaust design that was certified with the engine.